Stay Connected

iphoneI bet I know what you’re thinking, you’re thinking this is another article about how by using of smart phones, social media, etc we can all remain connected on a global level.

That these are tremendous advances in communication which will benefit the world.

Well actually, it’s not!

This is an article about how smart phones are now killing the art of conversation, and also basic connectedness on a very personal level.

We have all seen people in bars and restaurants, where there is a table of 4 people all with their smarthphones texting, tweeting, and facebooking and not one of them is talking to a person sat at that table.

Not only have I seen it, I have been one of those people, tweeting or checking in on work email.

I have been so busy staying connected that I have lost the personal connection with the person sat 2 feet away from me, sometime this is my children and more often than not it’s the wife.

This is almost getting to an epidemic state, and I know I am not the only one. The next time  you’re in a public place just put your phone away for a moment and take time to look at all the others and what they are doing, and how little connection they have with the people around them.

We need to redress this balance, we need to find time for the people who are right there in front of us, and relearn the art of conversation before we lose it permanently.

I can’t promise to perfect, but as of now I am going to make a concerted effort to give the people I am with 100% of my attention.

Gordon Tredgold

Leaderhip Principles

Stay Connected
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5 Responses to Stay Connected

  1. Very well described, Gordon, as usual.
    When we were a child we used to be told the importance of being dressed accordingly to the place we had to go. However, with smartphones we don’t apply the equivalent rule: we forget to socialise in the social places.

  2. Indeed Daniel, thanks for the comemnt

  3. faith keeps the man who has virtue faith in him

  4. rhwoodman says:

    As usual, Gordon, this is another great post. I think that the problem is worse than just disconnectedness. There have been studies done that show that people on line are ruder and more arrogant towards others than in face-to-face interactions. The disconnectedness with those around us that you correctly describe is merely an outward symptom of a deep, serious social pathology.

    When I was a child, my parents worked very hard to instill in me principles of good, kind, correct social behavior towards everyone. One of the ways that they did this was teaching me empathy for others. (BTW, it’s hard to teach empathy, but not impossible.) I think that people today lack empathy or, at best, have only a superficial empathetic construct in their minds. If our future is to be kinder, gentler, and more helpful than our present, we need to find ways to bring a deep sense of empathy back to society generally.

  5. Gordon Tredgold says:

    Great comment

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